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Albert Ellis and his Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy REBT – Linked with America’s Spiritual Suicide.

The three main irrational demands or arrogant musturbatory ideas that people use to disturb themselves are (by Albert Ellis):

  • (1) ‘I (ego) absolutely must perform well at important tasks (especially, winning the approval of others) or else I am an inadequate, worthless person!’
  • (2) ‘You (other people) definitely must treat me fairly and kindly or you are no damned good!’
  • (3) ‘The conditions under which I live must almost always be comfortable and enjoyable, else my whole life is pretty rotten!’ (Homepage).

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What is Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy: REBT is a form of psychotherapy created by Albert Ellis in the 1950’s.

REBT (pronounced R.E.B.T. — it is not pronounced rebbit) is based on the premise that whenever we become upset, it is not the events taking place in our lives that upset us; it is the beliefs that we hold that cause us to become depressed, anxious, enraged, etc. The idea that our beliefs upset us was first articulated by Epictetus around 2,000 years ago: “Men are disturbed not by events, but by the views which they take of them.”

The Goal of Happiness:

  • According to Albert Ellis and to REBT, the vast majority of us want to be happy. We want to be happy whether we are alone or with others; we want to get along with others—especially with one or two close friends; we want to be well informed and educated; we want a good job with good pay; and we want to enjoy our leisure time.
  • Of course life doesn’t always allow us to have what we want; our goal of being happy is often thwarted by the “slings and arrows of outrageous fortune.” When our goals are blocked, we can respond in ways that are healthy and helpful, or we can react in ways that are unhealthy and unhelpful.

The ABC Model:

Albert Ellis and REBT posit that our reaction to having our goals blocked (or even the possibility of having them blocked) is determined by our beliefs. To illustrate this, Dr. Ellis developed a simple ABC format to teach people how their beliefs cause their emotional and behavioral responses:

  • A. Something happens.
  • B. You have a belief about the situation.
  • C. You have an emotional reaction to the belief.

For example:

  • A. Your employer falsely accuses you of taking money from her purse and threatens to fire you.
  • B. You believe, “She has no right to accuse me. She’s a bitch!”
  • C. You feel angry.

If you had held a different belief, your emotional response would have been different:

  • A. Your employer falsely accuses you of taking money from her purse and threatens to fire you.
  • B. You believe, “I must not lose my job. That would be unbearable.”
  • C. You feel anxious.

The ABC model shows that A does not cause C. It is B that causes C. In the first example, it is not your employer’s false accusation and threat that make you angry; it is your belief that she has no right to accuse you, and that she is a bitch. In the second example, it is not her accusation and threat that make you anxious; it is the belief that you must not lose your job, and that losing your job would be unbearable.

The Three Basic Musts:

Although we all express ourselves differently, according to Albert Ellis and REBT, the beliefs that upset us are all variations of three common irrational beliefs. Each of the three common irrational beliefs contains a demand, either about ourselves, other people, or the world in general. These beliefs are known as The Three Basic Musts.

  • 1.I must do well and win the approval of others for my performances or else I am no good.
  • 2.Other people must treat me considerately, fairly and kindly, and in exactly the way I want them to treat me. If they don’t, they are no good and they deserve to be condemned and punished.
  • 3.I must get what I want, when I want it; and I must not get what I don’t want. It’s terrible if I don’t get what I want, and I can’t stand it.

The first belief often leads to anxiety, depression, shame, and guilt. The second belief often leads to rage, passive-aggression and acts of violence. The third belief often leads to self-pity and procrastination. It is the demanding nature of the beliefs that causes the problem. Less demanding, more flexible beliefs lead to healthy emotions and helpful behaviors

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Links – Find on wikipedia: Albert Ellis (psychologist); and REPT.

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